Top 10 mistakes women most often make on a first date

We usually get very excited before our first date. And it makes no difference how old we are - 17 or 57. Excitement is and will always be. Most of all, psychologists say, women are afraid of not finding a common language with a man... It is not clear how to behave, how to look, to please, to be silent or to speak. A lot of unclear and painful things are experienced by the fair sex before going on a first date with a man.

The psychologists decided to help them and compiled a kind of memo. This work was done by the staff of Harvard University. They noted that the appearance of a lady is very important for men, but even a dress made by an eminent designer and impeccable makeup are not able to produce the desired effect if a woman makes behavioral mistakes. The most widespread of them were presented by specialists in their "cheat sheet" for girls and women.

Chatting on the phone

This included not only conversations, but correspondence in messengers and social networks. It's ideal to just turn off your phone while on a date, or leave it at home altogether. But let's say you are an important employee, and your superiors can call you at any time on current issues, or you cannot leave your mobile at home, because your relatives may start looking for you.

In this case, the phone should be set to vibration, so as not to disrupt conversations with a shameless loud call. You should apologize to the interlocutor and quickly talk on the phone right in his presence so that he does not think that you have some terrible secrets, secrets and "skeletons in the closet."

Men usually do not continue a relationship with a woman who is on the first date. all the time chatting on the phone with someone, and also continued to "like" pictures of her friends.

Invalid questions

There are topics that men are not ready to talk about at all. There are topics that they don't want to talk about on the first date.And you need to show maximum tact so that from the first minutes of acquaintance you intuitively feel what kind of topics this person has.

If your intuition is unimportant, try to simply avoid questions about the exact amount of his income, previous personal relationships, questions of an intimate nature.

Job talk

Nobody, of course, forbids you to tell where and by whom you work, what your job is, to ask the interlocutor about the same, but you should not go too deep into production subtleties and secrets, complain about a paltry salary, harmful bosses and a worthless team. ...

This will indirectly characterize you as a quarrelsome nature with which it is unbearably difficult to find common interests, and therefore a man who listened to your complaints about an idiot boss for the whole evening is unlikely to invite you on a second date.

Marriage in perspective

Representatives of the stronger sex "mature" for a serious relationship longer. Therefore, the right way to scare off a man forever is to discuss a possible marriage with him in the future. You should also not hint that you dream of getting married, having a Chicago-style wedding, having five children. These conversations are untimely.

Offer to pay in half or in full

If a man calls you out to dinner at a restaurant, he is usually willing to spend. Your offer to pay half of the bill after dinner can completely cancel out the whole impression of you - the man may be offended. The second option is even less pleasant. If a man has something of a gigolo, even the smallest, he will graciously allow you to help him pay off, but then always and everywhere you will do the same, and one day you yourself will not notice how he will sit on your neck, and you will begin to pay not only general, but also his personal bills.

Mannerism

Pretentiousness is always a sign of falsehood. Men should not be considered more stupid than they are. Most of them are easily capable of catching this falsehood and pretense. Such ladies are not at all interesting even for short-term flirting. You can not count on something more serious with a feigned mannerism.

Instructions and notes

The man, for sure, has a mother, sister, someone who brings him up in one way or another. It is unlikely that he will like it if from the very first meeting the woman with whom he was thinking of dating begins to do it. Was he mistaken in the accent of the word, did he construct the sentence in the wrong way, does not remember the date of the siege of the Bastille, do not even think to pretend that you have noticed inaccuracies and mistakes.

Silence

This happens if both partners are nervous before the date and are tense. If you don't keep up the conversation, then a double burden will fall on the man. If you only answer “yes” or “no” to the questions, he will get the feeling that the date is a burden for you. Psychologists recommend it to the woman to monitor the timely filling of the pauses that arise in the conversation.

Domination and leadership

Even if you are used to leading, for the duration of the date you need to forget about the commanding tone, the commanding notes in your voice and the desire to decide everything for everyone. Most men are afraid of such ladies like fire, because today she "builds" subordinates, and tomorrow, if everything goes the same way, and make him march to her tune.

Thanks for the compliments

If a woman thanks for the compliments made to her, she shows her good manners as a minimum. To meet a stream of pleasant words with a stone face is somehow not human. You should not dispute the compliments made to you, even if it seems that the interlocutor is disingenuous or openly flattering.

The first date will continue if women adhere to these recommendations, psychologists say. And it will certainly be followed by a second, third, and so on.