Psychologists told how a woman does not turn into a draft horse and does not become an evil aunt
Russian women often complain of fatigue. They are tired of work, of constant household problems and worries. They often want to give up everything, give up on the sea, but there are not always opportunities to do this.
It is also understandable that women of any age want to have a strong male shoulder nearby, into which, if necessary, you can cry and complain. And not everyone has such a shoulder, and therefore tired women are forced to rush into battle again and again - to solve problems, earn money, pull children, make responsible and important family decisions.
The circle is closed, and the woman does not have time to notice how by the age of 35, or even earlier, she turns into a driven horse, an embittered and nervous aunt.
Given the scale of this catastrophe, psychologists decided to give some useful advice to women on how to prevent such an outcome of events. And these recommendations apply not even to those who are just at the beginning of their journey from a sweet girl to an evil aunt, but to those who have almost reached or have reached the finish line.
The way back is possible, but only without sudden movements, in stages.
1. Learn to listen to yourself
First of all, you need to learn to listen to your own desires. It is clear that a woman is accustomed to living for the sake of others, doing certain work to ensure their well-being, but now is the time to honestly ask yourself if you personally need it. The stronger a woman has become a "draft horse", the less desires she has.
But you need to try and answer the question of what you want for yourself. Psychologists recommend starting with small joys - a warm bath, a cup of coffee in complete silence, a candy before bed, send your husband for a walk with the children and sleep. Gradually, desires should become more and more large, but the main thing here is to move forward gradually.
2. Fall in love with yourself
Do not feel sorry for yourself, namely, love and take care of yourself.Start eating right, walking, take care of your own body, and it will soon answer you in full. Self-development should also be attributed to this point. Whether it's any hobby, reading, drawing or playing music, be sure to find time for it.
This will be your time, which should not be sacrificed for anyone.
3. Take action
This recommendation is taken literally - if you don't start changing something in your life, no one will come and change anything. Try to take your time. Every night before bed, tell yourself if today you have succeeded in loving yourself and listening to yourself. Any action should be based on your conscious decision to change your life.
A woman who turns into a draft horse cannot love herself, others do not love her. She looks like a victim and sincerely considers herself as such. Living life as a victim is not the best choice. Perhaps the time has come to change everything right now.
