Who buys the bride's wedding dress?
Pre-wedding chores and vanity captivate not only the main heroes of the occasion, but all relatives. Everyone wants to contribute to the wedding, give advice and (in their opinion) valuable guidance. But there are also traditions. To observe them or not is a question for the bride and groom, who themselves must decide whether their wedding will be classic and traditional or non-standard and modern. There are many wedding traditions and they apply to literally everything. Even the purchase of a wedding dress can be determined by customs that have come to us from our ancestors.
Who, according to Russian traditions, should buy a dress for a bride?
In Russia, it was customary for the bride to create her own wedding dress, as well as to prepare the dowry for herself. By the beauty and decoration of the dress, one could judge the girl's abilities, her skill and hard work. Therefore, every girl wanted to appear before guests and relatives in the most beautiful and richly decorated dress. By the way, according to tradition, it should have been red.
Over time, these traditions began to be forgotten, and the bride's wealthy parents hired tailors to create wedding decorations. Even the color of the dress changed from red to white and pastel.
If the groom managed to visit Europe, then it was from there that he tried to bring a dress for his future bride. This is how the opinion arose that the groom should buy a wedding dress.
In the Soviet Union, the wedding celebration itself and the preparation for it became simpler, and the old traditions began to be forgotten.Not much time was devoted to the wedding, outfits for the bride and groom were ordered at the nearest atelier, accessories were bought in the store, and the celebration itself was held in a cafe or restaurant.
True, there was and is one tradition that continues to be followed - the bridegroom should not see the dress chosen by the bride until the wedding. Otherwise, the marriage may be unhappy. But back to our question: who should be involved in choosing a wedding dress and who should be entrusted with the purchase.
The groom or his parents
Many believe that the groom and his family should bear the cost of purchasing not only the dress, but all additional items. This tradition is more widespread in Central, Southeast Asia and among Caucasian residents.
The outfit is chosen entirely by the groom's relatives, including jewelry, which can only be gold. Thus, the groom's family demonstrates their wealth and how strong the groom's feelings for the bride are.
If you are just as lucky and the groom is willing to pay in full for the entire outfit of the bride, then you, as his future wife, should invite your mother-in-law to visit the bridal salon and choose a dress together. It would be prudent to visit the same salon first with the person you know best and trust more in his taste and point of view. Having noted the suitable options, show them to the mother-in-law and make the final choice. Consider buying accessories for two with your future mother-in-law.
It would be foolish to refuse the offer of the groom to pay for your wedding dress. One has only to first discuss the total amount that you can have.
If the dress you have chosen turns out to be more expensive, then either you will have to pay the difference yourself, or look for a more budgetary option.
A common situation is when the groom purchases a dress, while the cost of accessories is borne by the bride.
The bride or her parents
Situations may be different and it is possible that relatives from the bride's side will buy the dress. In this case, you need to take your mother by the hand and gather close friends whose opinion you trust.
Here you also need to know the amount you can count on, have an idea about the style and style that suits you.
Before going to the salon and trying on dresses, consult with a fashion designer, look at the fashion trends of this season, study the recommendations of experts regarding the choice of a dress according to the type of your figure. The choice of dress is also influenced by the time of the year, weather conditions, the venue and the theme of the wedding.
How is buying a dress done in other countries?
In European countries, all wedding expenses are divided between the newlyweds. Parents take little part in anything.
If the wedding takes place in Germany and no wedding is envisaged, then the bride chooses not even a wedding dress for herself, but simply a festive or elegant one, which she buys on her own.
Eastern brides marry in a dress bought by the groom's relatives.
In America, the bride has to choose her own garters, which are not just an accessory and an element of lingerie. They throw themselves into the crowd of their unmarried friends as a groom. This tradition is very similar to throwing a bouquet. This tradition is becoming more and more popular in Russia as well.
If you look at Brazil, the groom's family does not take any part at all in choosing and buying a dress for the bride - everything rests on the shoulders of the bride's relatives.
The modern perspective on buying a wedding dress
The modern world has its own rules that determine the features of the process of preparing for a wedding. No one is so obsessed with who should buy a dress for the bride.
Increasingly, young people make up a general budget that goes to all items of expenditure. If a woman is wealthy enough, then most likely she herself will want not only to buy a dress, but also to pay for half of the banquet.
No matter how the situation develops in your case, it is imperative to agree on the choice of style in clothes for the bride and groom.
I believe that the bride should buy herself a wedding dress. If there is no money, then you can choose the simplest model. The husband should sponsor the whims of the wife after the wedding)